Go Simple

From Psychology Today |  By Linda Esposito, LCSW

Excerpt:
 “The voices in your head reminding you of the Friday deadline. Your spouse saying there’s a last-minute get-together with friends. Your kid crying because the book report is due, and he needs help.

Most of us live with some form of mental chatter or another. But how do you mentally declutter? In short, clear your mind of the obsessive thoughts which can overwhelm you and keep you mired in avoidance, indecision and procrastination. The extreme example is OCD, although more commonly, we struggle with mindless, automatic, negative thoughts, which cause brain drain. Either way, too many of us are living our fears and not our dreams.

The problem is exacerbated by mental hoarding. Or when every third negative thought, bad memory, and personal slight fills the memory bank, collecting interest.

Accumulating unhealthy thoughts takes a toll. Your mind is a mental battlefield, your days wasted with one psychological arm wrestle after another. Compounding the problem is physical exhaustion.

Regardless of your situation, or DNA, your mind will not become calm, confident, and clear if you do not pay attention to paying attention:

  • You can’t stop boredom from creeping in if you don’t realize you’re checking out in the first place.
  • You can’t overcome avoidance if you don’t recognize you’re dreading reality this very moment.
  • You can’t practice steps to feel calm if you don’t listen to your body’s stress signals.

Awareness is everything to anxiety. Too often, energy is squandered between two mental states: rehearsing the future or rehashing the past.

While no shortcuts exist to get rid of unwanted thoughts, the following minimalist mindsets can help set the tone for a cleaner psychological slate.

  • Tis Better to Donate Than Accumulate
  • Love People Not Things
  • Simplify, Simplify, Simplify
    • Be more with less.
    • Stress less.
    • Drive less.
    • Text less.
    • Talk less.
    • Eat less.We have a finite amount of mental energy every day. Unused minutes do not roll over to the next month. Choose your thoughts, actions, and relationships wisely.”

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